I’m always giving myself a hard time.
Have you ever heard someone say that?Have you ever felt deep inside that you are giving yourself a hard time?
Do you criticize and critique your every thought, every move, every action… thinking that somehow it will propel you to be better.
Do you think that doing this protects you in some way? Think it will make you smarten up or behave or do the right thing or be the right person?
The truth is it will do nothing but cut you down and make you feel awful. Harsh words reduce and diminish they don’t inspire and ignite. Whether said to yourself or someone else criticism is not what makes us grow. It is love and compassion that makes us better.
If we get what we give in the world and we spend so much time giving ourselves a hard time it makes sense to think that what we would receive in return is a life that feels hard, feels difficult, like it’s beating us up.
Whether we like it or not we are part of this cycle of giving and receiving and if we continue giving ourselves a hard time that’s what we will get. Give yourself a break.. give yourself love and compassion and you will receive that in return. Look for examples of how you are in the cycle of giving and receiving in your life and you will see very quickly that it is true. Look for beauty and it will find you. Give into the temptation to find what feels good and your life will be full of things that feel good.
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Great advice!
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Thanks for saying that. I’ve learned from other inspiring people the way we talk to ourselves in our own head creates the world that we live in. There is no reason to be so critical of ourselves if we wish to live in a world that is accepting of us and supportive towards us. Thank you for reading.
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You’re welcome! Your post was very nicely written. And it’s true. I mean if we can’t speak to ourselves in a positive way, why should we expect it from others?
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I think if there’s only one person on earth who is speaking to us in the way we want to hear it should be us. Why give ourselves hard time? I don’t know where we learn this but we need to unlearn it. It is not supportive or inspiring it’s just critical and diminishing.
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Yes ! 100% agree
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I wrote a post yesterday called I am. It was in response to the question I asked myself “who would I be without my limiting beliefs?” the answer to that question was so beautiful.
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Yes, I read it and loved it.
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Thanks. It was hard to write at a time when I felt very defeated. Writing the words and reading them daily is such an affirmation.
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Oh I can relate in soooo many levels.
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I’m glad to hear this as it makes me feel a little more human. Every time a reader reaches out to me to say that my words resonate it gives me such a feeling of connectedness. I hope you will speak kindly to yourself as much as possible. I’m working on it.
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Hi Joanne, visit my Blog I am hosting a Meet and Greet session if you would like to partecipate… 🙂
http://yesterdayafter.com/2015/06/16/lets-meet-and-greet-and-featured/
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I love this.. You are such a go giver. It is so great to connect with other writers and be part of this community. Thank you for inviting me.
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You are welcome Joanne and yes I wanted to give the opportunity to connect 🙂
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I’m excited about the doors of opportunity opening.
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Yes I am excited too 🙂
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How do you sell art on your site? I’m writing a book and eventually want to sell it.
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You can do in a similar way like I sell the Jewelry here. Check out my page just to have an idea for a book is more easy
http://yesterdayafter.com/shops/how-to-order/
If sell with PayPal if you see I added the button Buy Now on my side bar you could add a widget with your book image linked to a page where you introduce the book and add under the widget the PayPal button 🙂
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Thanks for the advice. You’re very kind.
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you re welcome if have more questions or help let me know I am happy to help you if you like you can also email me feel free ❤
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I really appreciate that. Is made a decision to follow my heart and write for a living. Nothing will get in my way having friends like you to support me is invaluable. all the best to you
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Yay! Thats a great decision congratulation! I made mine to persue my Art in every form and focus on that! 🙂
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I’ve heard that making a decision is a very powerful force in the universe. Until we decide, all things are possible. It’s a law of physics that any possibility exists until a decision is made and then the universe collapses to one possibility to follow that decision.
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Yes also your will alligns everything and attracts, it is very powerful! Also to be positive and believe in yourself and in what you are doing 🙂 I am happy to talk with you about all this 🙂 ❤
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I’ve heard that we attract not what we want but who we are. If we can focus every day on what we want and do all we can to believe we already have it, our desires have no option but to come to us.
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Yes, I heard that! It is part of the law of attraction… 😉
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Hi, thank you for the comment. I’m actually a little frightened by this post, because it’s so real. You’re right. All I do is give myself a hard time, thinking that I’ll pull myself together somehow, instead I just crumble even more. I’ll take your advice and do my best to follow it. Thank you so much for reaching out, it was actually all I needed. ❤
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I can understand that you would be frightened. We live so much of our lives within a paradigm of self criticism that we believe on some level is beneficial to our growth. in contemplating that that paradigm is wrong we open the door to realizing that we can be kind to ourselves. I am humbled to think my words have reached you in this way and grateful that you shared your thoughts with me.
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This is really beautiful. One of the toughest aspects of being human is that we tend to be too hard on ourselves and don’t give ourselves the credit that we deserve. We tend to over-analyze and strive for others’ approval when in reality, the only legit approval you need it your own. That’s kinda how I take to my writing. On Tumblr, I used to write one shots for people and was really successful at it. I’d get requests daily and crank them out; people loved them. Then, I started doing fan fics. That’s when I started doubting myself. I barely had any readers and i wondered if my writing was any good. A few years later, and now I’ve stopped thinking about that and just write for myself. Contentment in your work and self only works if you allow it to happen, regardless of anyone else.
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I was just here beating myself up on some things I have to “deal” with, and right now after reading your post I feel kinda silly 🙂 Thank you so much for this ❤
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When we are trying to do things out of obligation we often practice them with the phrase I have to. try to use the preface I want to and see if it changes the way you approach it. We can live a life doing only that which we want to do, but we must stop thinking of our life as a burden and something to get done. I’m so glad to have helped with my writing.
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That’s exactly how I treat my responsibilities, “I HAVE to do this, I HAVE to do that.” But I see your point very clearly that if I just change this attitude towards something constructive like “I want to.” then it’ll definitely do wonders for my own motivation level. 🙂 Thanks again ^_^
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I’m just passing on the lessons I’ve learned from people who have inspired me. I’m learning them myself and get caught up in the feeling of I have to do things as well. best of luck. Namaste
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And you’re doing a pretty good job at it 🙂 Namaste to you too ❤
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Great blog !!! love you post
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Thanks for reading. You are my 100th follower!! I really appreciate each and every one and fee so connected.
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100th!! feels like i won something
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I love that your tag is… A journey into the magic. That’s how I feel about life.
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OOOO00000oooOOO Yes…… thank you so much for telling, I love that!
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I intend to surround myself with inspirational people.
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Nice blog 🙂 I’ll follow you on twitter .Do you have an instagram account?
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I do. It’s jo_traveller thanks!
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okay 🙂 Thank you
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I also love the design of your blog. I’m new here. I’m happy that my comment box is appearing on you. Someone told me yesterday that he can’t see my comment box below my blog 🙂 could you comment anything like reaction on my first blog 🙂 thank you! have a good day.
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Well said..
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Thank you… I’m working on it. I appreciate you reading my words.
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Great advice! 🙂
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Hard to follow, but worth the effort.
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Beautiful words! I have felt all those things. -TJ
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Thanks!
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Reblogged this on tjdeepthinker and commented:
Take the time to give yourself a break… you deserve it. Thank you to Jo Traveller for this beautiful blog
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Thanks for reblogging. I appreciate the compliment.
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I know I am often harder on myself than is needed. Thanks for the reminder to give it a break 🙂
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What we really need is to be our own caregivers and friends. Speaking kindly to ourselves is inspiration not indulgent
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Love the positivity of this post x
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Thank you. I’m really working on parking the fear and letting positivity flow.
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